369 – Lawyer, songwriter, empowerer of women: Tom interviews Lisa Stuart

Episode 369 – Lisa Stuart
[00:00:08] Welcome to Screw the Commute. The entrepreneurial podcast dedicated to getting you out of the car and into the money, with your host, lifelong entrepreneur and multimillionaire, Tom Antion.

[00:00:24] Hey, everybody it's Tom here with episode three hundred and sixty nine. Screw the Commute podcast. I'm here with Lisa Stuart. She, according to her Instagram, is a speaker and author, a lawyer and a songwriter and a mom of three, which I don't believe because I call her my new friend, the supermodel. You know, it's just impossible that she could have three kids. But if she's a lawyer, she's supposed to tell the truth. We'll see. Hope you didn't miss Episode 368. Alain Burrese was here. He's a good friend of mine. He's one of the few people on earth I would trust my life to. How about that? And it's also another great example. Just like Lisa, if when you're not screwing the commute all the time or when you are screwing the commute all the time, you can do lots of things. And so he's a fifth man and hapkido or maybe an eighth. And I'm not sure he was the co instructor with me on my brutal self-defense class. He was a lawyer. He was an Army sniper. What he talked about on the last episode was how to get free stuff by doing Amazon reviews. He's done 6000 reviews on Amazon. So I hope you didn't miss that episode, though. How would you like to hear your own voice here on screen, the commute? Well, if the shows helped you out at all in your business or giving you ideas to help you start a business, we want to hear about it. Visit screwthecommute.com and look for the little blue sidebar that says, send the voicemail, click on it, talk into your phone or computer.

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[00:04:24] All right. So we'll talk about that later. Let's get to the main event. Lisa Stuart is an international life coach who empowers women to say yes to themselves without fear and no to others without guilt. Her be the Butterfly webinar series has resonated with women around the globe as their go to source for spiritual growth and life realignment. Lisa, are you ready to screw? The commute?

[00:04:54] Absolutely. And first of all, thank you so much for having me here. I'm so excited.

[00:04:59] Oh, it's my pleasure. We met through one of my dearest friends, Patricia Kara. Fine number 9 I call her.

[00:05:09] And I love I love Patricia. She's a dear friend of us and she's just amazing.

[00:05:14] And then she met you through your husband, right?

[00:05:18] Yes, she did. Isn't that amazing how things come together? But now she says the heck with him. I like Lisa better.

[00:05:26] I think it's a big love fest for all of us now.

[00:05:30] So tell everybody what you're doing now, then we'll take you back to on your entrepreneurial journey, because you've done a lot of things that attorney, songwriter, the whole bit. But tell us about your work with women.

[00:05:41] Yes, I have a lot to talk about, so I'll try to keep it brief. Yeah. So basically, my journey started a couple of years ago, back in 2017 when I had this.

[00:05:51] I've been a practicing lawyer for over 20 years and still practicing, so.

[00:05:55] I can't believe that that's your line. But I go along with it because I don't want to cause trouble on this recording. But there's no way. Go ahead.

[00:06:03] My state bars can't get around that. So yes, I'm still practicing as a litigator, which is why I probably love to talk. And a few years ago, I went through some personal things in my life and I really just had this need to empower women. I've always written I've always written stories, poems, songs.

[00:06:23] And so I just wanted to build a space for women to come together. And I had this whole brick and mortar idea back in 2017 that I was pregnant with my little girl right now and everything just kind of came to a stop because I couldn't exactly leave my day job to go start this with a third baby on the way.

[00:06:42] You're probably lucky that you didn't go and rent a big facility and sign a long term lease.

[00:06:47] You know, I was very close to it.

[00:06:51] Maybe is a double gift from God to save you by twenty five dollars a square foot.

[00:06:56] You know, let me tell you, with twenty twenty is hindsight. It's a good thing. Right.

[00:07:01] So I've been working on this book, a couple of books that I have and starting in twenty twenty before the pandemic hit, I said to myself, you know what, this is the year, this is the year. I'm going to get my books out, empower women and do all that. And at the start of the pandemic, I thought about all the things that I wanted to do to empower women. And I said, well, wouldn't that be an amazing space now on the virtual platform to bring my work? Little did I know that there's a forum for it, which is fantastic because I really feel that the world needs a lot of light right now. And so having never started an entrepreneurship ever from scratch, I've always had many ideas. But I've just been really committed to my legal work all these years and still practicing now. I just decided back in August that I was just going to take action. I said, you know what, I'm just going to start because if I don't start, the days are going to turn into weeks and years. So I did and I started putting my writings out there. I started doing seminars I do weekly, almost like group coaching every week. I have people from around the world, from Australia, from Europe, from Central America, from Canada, everywhere coming live. And it's really an amazing space because women can come together at all ages. I mean, I've got women that are in their twenties to women in their 70s, and they come back every week, some of them, and tell me how much they've learned each week, which is really like my my purpose, that I wanted to get out there to inspire women, that they really can recreate themselves at any stage, at any age for any reason.

[00:08:34] Now, what method are used to deliver this using webinars or Facebook live or what?

[00:08:39] I have a few methods. So basically right now I'm on Instagram and I have a Facebook page and my webinars are on Zoom. So you have an up and I give the link. Right. So every week is a different zoom. I also have private clients, one on one as well. I actually am coaching men as well, which is very interesting because this started off as empowering women, but it seems to resonate with men as well. So that's been very interesting and helpful. And my what I what I'm planning to do for twenty twenty one is my monthly memberships, which is going to be sort of a collaboration of a Facebook group and weekly and monthly webinars and seminars. And I have a whole itinerary of topics that I have, which is also going to be incorporated from my book that I'm finalizing with all my concepts and then bringing those forward and doing book clubs as well.

[00:09:32] Right now, without mentioning any names, is there any any of your clients that just kind of stick out that made big transformations because of your work?

[00:09:42] Yes, a lot of them have a lot of my most of my clients are women who have really struggled.

[00:09:49] They're usually very motivated high achievers who've checked off all the boxes but feel like there's something missing from their lives. And it's usually something that they haven't given themselves permission to explore or they feel that they're limited either by societal pressure or family pressures, religious. It's this we're supposed to fit into this perfect mold, but there's something more for us and we kind of kick out of our cage to look at it, but we would rather retreat into the comfortable ness of our chaos because we don't know what's out there.

[00:10:18] And then a lot of women also feel very selfish because they feel that they've got so much in their lives that they're so grateful for. How could they feel like they want more? But really, it's about empowering women to explore what's more. So, yeah, there have been women that have given themselves more time giving themselves permission to pursue that passion, to go after that project that may turn into a job for them that they've always wanted to do, given themselves permission to even reevaluate a relationship they have with a family member, a partner, and mostly we the relationship that they have with themselves so that they really treat themselves better and kinder, and especially to a lot of moms who really don't make themselves a priority.

[00:11:00] I was going to mention that that I recall that through a period a lot of executive women, powerful women, still had this guilt side that they, you know, because they had kids and they they were fighting with the career balancing being a mom. That's got to be tough. Now, you're in that situation, although, again, you got you got a piece of cake. Patricia told me you've got the best baby on earth. You could take him to a concert. He's up, you know, putting his lighter up in the air.

[00:11:31] She's pretty awesome. And she loves Patricia. And she's a great girl.

[00:11:36] So she's going to be three next month.

[00:11:41] Never cries. Never does anything wrong.

[00:11:43] Mostly she's very good. But I do have two boys from my first marriage and my oldest is twenty two and my second is turning twenty tomorrow. So it was always that juggle the juggle is real, like how do you be a working mother and still be there for your children. It's been a very hard thing to do my whole life because I, I call myself a recovering perfectionist because I wanted to do everything and it was always at my own expense. So it's about learning how to I don't think you can balance in life. I think something's always going to fall. And I give a whole webinar on that. I think it's learned how to have that internal balance so you can handle whatever it is that life throws at you. And you just need to prioritize what comes your way now with starting these new businesses, having in a toddler at home, having my son home from college right now, who's working and still practicing as a lawyer and trying to make time for everything. A big thing for me with this new business was prioritizing myself and making sure I had time every single day to focus on doing something to or in my business, every single day, doing lives, doing videos, doing webinars, posting my blogs and making sure I had time for myself for self care as well. Because if I'm advocating self care for women, I've got to be practicing that as well. So that's been a very big life changer as well. And I think that it's also helped a lot of other people.

[00:13:02] Yeah, but see, I don't know this about me, but I helped start a law firm one time. And so while you're doing all this stuff, you could be building hours at the same time.

[00:13:11] I mean, I you know, we my particular field of law is personal injury.

[00:13:18] Oh. So you're contingency that fell back. Yes.

[00:13:23] And it's very interesting because, you know, as we do only plaintiff side. So I've been kind of like a therapist to my clients for twenty years. You know, I'm very connected to my clients. I give them my cell phone number to call me any time. And they have because they're dealing with a lot of emotional distress, death, horrible injuries. And we do sexual abuse cases as well, which being the only female attorney in my firm, I'm the one that usually handles it. And so it's dealing with a lot of emotions and a lot of feelings. So I feel like I've had many years of practice doing that as well.

[00:13:55] All right. But you would have to turn down the case if I went to Patricia's house and slipped and fell and wanted to sue her. Right.

[00:14:03] We have a conversation. We figure we'd figure it out.

[00:14:08] All right. So tell us about this songwriting. You don't run into somebody does that every day.

[00:14:15] That's a it's an interesting one because that's kind of how my husband now who knows who I met Patricia through. That's kind of how we met in a way, is their songwriting. It happened back in twenty seven. I've written poems and stories my whole life, and one day a song just came to me and I just started writing songs. They were flying out of me music and lyrics. But I don't compose. I don't I haven't played the piano in like twenty years. So I needed people to help me put it together, collaborate, hands. My husband Russ, we actually have a song out on Spotify and I think Apple anyway, for a song that was pitched to the movie fame to that very close, and they kept asking me to redo it. It was very close. They never ended up using it. I'm one of those things, but it turned into a great song and I have a bunch of songs I did. See, on my phone, and my mother loves to listen to them all the time, but I never really did anything with them, enter my book, which all the songs are now going to be. My dream is to write a musical. I dance and I take dance classes and I love music. So my book that my novel book, my fiction book that I'm writing, not the other one is going to be hopefully one day turned into a musical. So all these songs are going to be incorporated in.

[00:15:33] Wow. Yeah. So I've written some songs but they're all parodies and I'm not sure about parody laws, so I never released them.

[00:15:40] But I'm going to try it on you right now. It seems weird Al Yankovic. Really. Yeah.

[00:15:46] You know, and the sorry the funny thing is I started writing lyrics because I can never remember the words to any song, so I would make them up and I'd remodify. And so I sometimes can't remember the words to my own songs. It's like a weird thing.

[00:15:59] But so I did one on the because, you know, I teach computer stuff and the Internet stuff and everybody forgets to do backups. So I did one to the tune yesterday. So let me let me try it for you yesterday. All those backups seem so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay the and then it goes on and on and then it ends up I'm screwed, screwed, screwed through.

[00:16:31] So you got a hit on your head? Yeah, I don't believe that. So so let's take you back a little bit. I looked at your Instagram a little bit and you're quite a besides a lyricist.

[00:16:43] You make up a lot of good quotes that I think will be around for a long time. I let's see, one of my favorites is let's see, when you detox the drama, you release the drama. Good. Yes. And then go on a drama diet. Oh, lose the weight of the boulders that you've been carrying on your shoulders.

[00:17:07] The good thing you got to be. So they're going to be in songs till my very first.

[00:17:16] That's very funny. You said that Tom is my very first song that I ever wrote a lyric. The words were, I walk around with the weight of the world on my shoulders, literally. That's where all my songs came from. Wow. So, yes, I was that person that felt every person's pain. And anyway, I turn into a whole song and good thing it did because now I have a whole song and a list of like things that come out of me. But usually what I write on Instagram and I'm not saying this to be boastful, I write in five minutes. Wow. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I get an idea and I write it. Yeah.

[00:17:48] Patricia told me that you were too smart for this show.

[00:17:51] Your parody is pretty witty.

[00:18:00] So let's take you back. So so were you as a child, were you entrepreneurial at all or did you just come up the standard route, get it, you know, go to college, get a law degree?

[00:18:13] You know, I was so like shy as a child. I was so like I was one of those.

[00:18:19] You got over it, I think. Right?

[00:18:20] I got up, but I was one of those that, like, I didn't even like to showcase, like, I tried to to dumb myself down, like I hated it. I hated standing out. Like, even if I was I called on in class and I knew the answer. I hated being in the spotlight. It just really made me feel uncomfortable. But I always had a lot of friends, thank goodness. And I always, you know, I always have a lot of fun. But no, I wasn't entrepreneurial. I went to school. I graduated college at twenty one. I was a psychology major and a creative writing.

[00:18:48] I was Tom here. Yeah, I was a like, yeah, cool.

[00:18:52] I was in front of the the electric shock treatment, but then I didn't go very far with that. And how did that work out. The door was switched careers pretty quick. Yeah.

[00:19:03] Yeah, yeah.

[00:19:04] I never went that but I sat there and I took the Jeri's in college and I was only twenty at the time when I took him in my senior year. I was very young for my grade and I wanted to take a year off and my mother called my mother. She said, go for it. I called my father. They were already divorced at the time. And he's like, no, why don't you apply to law school? Because he's a lawyer.

[00:19:24] I'm like, OK, without even thinking I was like, OK.

[00:19:27] I took the LSAT, didn't even study for them, applied for law school after I graduated for like that August. So like I graduated in May and then I started law school in August. I just did it.

[00:19:39] I would say you got to be some kind of genius because I was valedictorian of my school. I looked at the LSAT. I couldn't answer anything on. I said, forget it. I got to better be in business because I'm not smart enough to be a lawyer.

[00:19:53] I'm sure you would have done great.

[00:19:56] Yeah. If they just gave me the license, I mean, I would have been fine. But passing that test, I don't know. So you took the LSAT then? Where'd you go to law school.

[00:20:06] I can hear back here in California, I went to Southwestern, yeah, OK, and then when did you start getting these this idea that you were going to help women?

[00:20:18] We've always ridden I've always written inspirational things since I was in grade school. I've always written inspirational quotes. I've always done that kind of stuff. When did I want to start helping women?

[00:20:28] 2017, Tom. Just recently. 2017. That's when I made the decision.

[00:20:33] You just have to better do it or or it just became like this tug in my soul that just like was screaming to come out of me. I don't know, it just was, it was in there for years but it just was really burning to come out of me. And you know, I started to put together like day events for women. And I went around to all the hotels here to put together. And I had all my people in place to to try out a Women's Day retreat to see for like the soul and the mind, body and soul.

[00:21:01] Then I found out I was pregnant and everything kind of stopped in a good way because like the light of our lives. But like, it was like, OK, we'll put that on hold for now.

[00:21:09] Actually, you probably have. Well, I don't know. You were a mother twice before that. I was going to say probably gives you an insight, but I don't know a kid 20 years ago and a kid today. It's a different world.

[00:21:21] Oh, my gosh. She knows how to navigate the iPad better than I. She probably came out of the womb swiping the screen.

[00:21:28] You know, it's really incredible. Like I think about it when I add my voice. They didn't even have the iPhone. So I don't even have those iPhone no Instagram to post their pictures, which they're so thankful for.

[00:21:39] Yeah, but it's a different, different world. And I think also having two boys who are very Boyzvoice and then having a daughter and really wanting to have always taught my boys to be strong and on their feet. And they've always seen their mother working and being there for them. I was always very involved in their school and PTA and their sports and everything. But I think having a daughter was also a big catalyst to like, let's really raise women in this world as well so that they know what they can and can't do.

[00:22:07] And if I can bring up just a little bit in the legal career, it's very interesting because I have, as you can hear, I have sort of a soft voice. Right. And so a lot of times in the beginning of my legal career as a litigator in court, you always hear from men, oh, you're such a soft voice.

[00:22:23] You're so soft spoken. And some women were coming very aggressive and very kind of like masculine at their arguments would be really bad. And, you know, I learned not that I'd win every argument, but it's not what you do. It's how you say it. But you don't have to come across like women don't have to come across as like so rough to get their point across. And that was also a big thing because, you know, it was just a very interesting thing.

[00:22:47] Sometimes it's better you sneak up on them. Yeah, they look oh, look, she's weak. And then you just come in and exactly.

[00:22:56] Knock them off. Exactly.

[00:22:57] With the with the arguments. Yeah. So what what do you see for the future of this training for women.

[00:23:03] Where's it going to go. A whole I have a whole movement. I don't even know if I dare talk about it because my visions are just spewing out of me. So originally my thought was three years ago I wanted to have a brick and mortar place of a women going these women's retreats.

[00:23:19] Right. But they come back and then they go back to real life. So why can't they have a place where they're kind of like held accountable and these like wonderful spiritual safe spaces all year round? So that was the premise. I had all the different ideas of speakers and this and that.

[00:23:33] I mean, multiple locations around the country or just locally.

[00:23:38] I was going to start here. I had researched at the time there really wasn't anything that was like my vision. So actually in my fiction book, I put my entire vision for it in the book. So I said, OK, if I can't bring it to life, I'll write about it. Right. So that whole area is in my book. And then when the pandemic hit, I said, well, why can't we have a virtual space for that as well? My vision is to have these eventually these monthly memberships where women can come on. And there is you know, I'll do webinars. I have I have lists and lists of topics like I have enough topics to do, like 365 days a year. So I've so much content. And to empower women, to inspire women, to uplift women and to bring other women on, to collaborate, to bring on other types of people like can have like meditation people or samples. I don't do any of that stuff. I'm not one of those people that does everything all. I just want to help women and also do group group coaching. So if people want to have group coaching or one on one coaching, I love group coaching because I think that people can learn from each other. And I think that especially on a place like Zoom, where people are from all over the world that I've been having on my webinars and people can bring up topics, you really can learn from different cultures and from the aspects of different people. And so if you have a question what's what's personal is universal, I think a lot of people can grow from that. And so I just really I have a lot of vision.

[00:25:02] So I'm thinking the closer, you know, settle out a couple of big cases and then you can buy up commercial real estate for nothing right now, you know, all around the place.

[00:25:13] And probably if you felt like.

[00:25:19] So, yeah, so you could you could grab up all this real estate? Everything I was just thinking the pejorative thing about personal injury attorneys are ambulance chasers. Right? So when I when I when I helped start this law firm as a construction firm and so I called my buddy, I called him a backhoe chaser because he was away for all the construction problems that happened.

[00:25:46] So that's crazy work, which we try to take bigger and cases not like the typical amp. Right. So it's interesting. And we actually we have in our firm a niche and I'm not plugging the firm now or anything, but we have a niche and I'm using it. Right. So we've actually had a lot of lawsuits against every major amusement park around the country.

[00:26:05] Oh, yeah, your brain bleeds and stuff.

[00:26:08] Yeah, it's been crazy.

[00:26:09] Oh, wow. Like the law firm. Great. Yeah. I mean, the, you know, people, you know, if you really did a good job promoting the law firm, people would try to get hurt just to come see.

[00:26:21] In fact, they did that. They did.

[00:26:23] I'm sure you're familiar with Squat and Swoop. That's where a bunch of people get in a car pool in front of swoop, in front of a trailer truck and then squat and then boom.

[00:26:37] Yeah, I guess so. But how do I know stuff I what we call that illegal. But yeah. Well I call it stupid. I mean you want to jump in front of an 18 wheeler. Yeah.

[00:26:50] That's a I don't know how long you can last in that career, you know. So, so we got to take a brief sponsor break. When we come back, we're going to ask you how you're juggling the still being an attorney and helping women and all this all this stuff. So we'll be back to you in a second.

[00:27:06] So, folks, about twenty years ago, I kind of turned the Internet marketing guru world on its head. And the people at my level were charging 50 or 100 grand up front to help people. And I thought, you know, I know a lot of these people, they gave me fifty grand up front. You know, you'd be they'd be hiding out in Mexico. They never help you. So I said, I'm going to fix this.

[00:27:28] So I kind of made them all mad. I, I charged an entry fee and then I charge a percentage of your profits that's capped. And so you're not stuck with me forever. But for me to get my fifty thousand, you have to make 200000 people really like this and seventeen hundred plus students later and twenty years later it's still going strong. And then I call it the most unique, the longest running and the most successful Internet mentor program ever. And I triple dog dare people to match feature for feature all my stuff because then nobody would take me up on it because they'd be embarrassed with all the unique things we give you. We give you an immersion weekend here at the retreat center in Virginia Beach. We actually live in this big estate with me. We have a TV studio next door where we shoot videos for you, marketing videos, some of which go for seven hundred to fifteen hundred dollars apiece on the open market. We've never had anybody get out of here without less than ten and one couple did. Fifty three of them. We added them, put the graphics on and give them all these marketing videos.

[00:28:33] Plus, unlike our esteemed guests, Lisa, we hate group coaching, but it's a different thing, say, because in my field it's you know, it's got a little bit of technical to it. If I'm talking to the advanced people, the beginners are totally lost. And if I'm talking to the beginners, the advanced people are bored. So it's a little bit different situation. I wholly agree with her on the on the type of thing she teaches, but it's one on one and nobody at my level even talk to you, let alone teach you anything. And you have will take over your computer, show you where to click. I mean, just make rapid progress. And the last thing is that if you are in my mentor program, you get a scholarship to my school and you can either use it yourself for extra training or gifted to someone. And we had one guy joined a mentor program, spent 80000 bucks on his daughter's crap education, and she's working some crappy job. And so he gifted this to her. And after one month, she was making a thousand dollars a month as a side hustle. Two, three months later, she was making what she told me, three thousand a month, four months in the school, she was making six thousand a month as a side hustle just with the the small businesses just throw money at you to take stuff off their hands because they're all clueless about social media and how to do all this stuff. So. So, anyway, check it out at greatInternetmarketingtraining.com, no high pressure. If you can't see the value of this, I probably can't help you. So check it out and we'll be glad to talk to you.

[00:30:13] All right. Let's get back to the main event. Lisa Stuart is here. She is a magnanimous woman does it all. I mean, she's like the poster child for high achieving lady, but a soft spoken one that'll sneak up on you in court. And so so, Lisa, how do you juggle this stuff with your big aspirations and helping women and doing webinars and you still got court cases going at the same time and a baby and a three year old. How do you handle it? How do you do it? What's a typical day look like for you?

[00:30:49] Well, you know, it's interesting you say that just to backtrack, I used to be the type of person that was busy all day long and being busy as a badge of honor. But I realize that busy is not the same thing as being productive. So took me many, many years to realize what I really needed to do every day and what I really could could delegate or could wait for another day. And so my method that really helps me because the juggle is real, right? So my method that helps me is every single day I put into my calendar three things that I that I really need to do prioritize and three things that I really want to do. And I have some non-negotiable.

[00:31:27] And I have feed the baby food, including like feed the baby at dinner, go to the market. I'm not even including all of that other all the other stuff in my.

[00:31:38] Do you do this at night so that you're ready the next day or do you do it the first thing in the morning.

[00:31:44] Sometimes they wake up in the middle of the night and my mind just goes, OK, write it down. So I'm not a morning person, unfortunately, but. My husband and I, we don't sleep all night because of our our daughter is kind of maybe in our bed so and so we're up a lot and I'm not a great sleeper anyway. So, you know, I do the best I can. But usually the night before I've learned to do this, I post I committed myself to post every single day on Instagram. And so, like I said, I get a download from the universe. I figure out what I want to write, I get an inspiration and I put it down like it takes me five, maybe 10 minutes to do. And I usually do it the night before the next day, sometimes the morning of. But I also put in my phone every day. I even put it in to work out, even though I'm a big workout advocate, I put it in my phone so I don't forget to meditate. And even if it's like 10, 15 minutes a day and I talk about this a lot in my self care, like today is Monday and I have this thing every Monday called many moments. You can always take a mini moment for yourself, even if you break it up throughout the day and 10, 15 minute increments, there's always time for that quick walk around the block to just clear your head or ten minutes of meditation.

[00:32:57] I don't believe in more than that and, you know, exercise. So I always structure time in obviously I have legal work to do so and I usually get very focused. I get very laser focused, are very mindful of whatever project I'm in. I used to I used to love oh my God, I used to be the biggest multitasker and say, well, look at all these things I could do. It's like juggling balls. One's going to fall or ten, right? I don't juggle. So I've learned to slow down because going fast is usually reckless. So slow down and you actually get more done. So being mindful and being present in the moment is huge because I used to be like everything that I had to do would go through my mind as I'm doing. I mean, there were days like when I first started writing songs and I had submitted them to different talent agencies at the time who were like music supervisor for movies and stuff. And I'd like be on my computer.

[00:33:48] I did have one screen on a legal brief and one screen like my song, and I flip back and forth right to my left. No joke like I just would flip.

[00:33:57] I'm just picturing you in court, messing up and starting to sing.

[00:34:01] Oh gosh. And I don't sing so that would not be a pretty sight.

[00:34:06] I don't go to the movies all the time.

[00:34:09] Yeah. I should do one speech and I've never, I've never tried that route so yeah. The third largest I don't think is right now and they made some pretty good movies and shows about the lawyers. Right.

[00:34:22] They should incorporate that into a musical but yeah, it's a good idea. So no, I just I really try to just slot time slot everything and forgive myself for not doing something and lose the guilt. So that's a big thing. And just knowing if I have to get this done, I don't have to push them. I used to push myself to get everything done and then collapse at the end of the night. And I don't know.

[00:34:45] Yeah, and I just said something about slowing down to a martial arts. We have a saying that slow is smooth and smooth is fast.

[00:34:57] Yeah, because, I mean, people try to learn this stuff and they go crazy and nothing is being done right, and it's actually slower when your muscles are tight. So so you start slow and that makes you smooth. And the smoother you are, the faster you are.

[00:35:10] So that is. Yeah, I didn't make that up. That's just an old saying. I'll quote you on that.

[00:35:19] I like that.

[00:35:20] And as I'm talking about going slow, my grandmother, I love her so much. One hundred years young and she tells me all the time because she listens to my webinars. Slow down. You speak too fast.

[00:35:31] I'm realizing now she might listen to this and say, listen, I talk fast.

[00:35:37] Well, I can edit this and slow it down to 50 percent of what I can slow or just slow is that know there's that option on that little podcast, but yeah.

[00:35:49] Oh, that's right. I don't know if it has like minus on it. So it has both. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:35:56] So so how do you stay motivated with all this stuff going on.

[00:36:00] How do you stay motivated intrinsic with you or what.

[00:36:03] I am obsessed with this. I would do this 24/7, like I like my husband. He's built many businesses. He built to one this year and one couple of years ago. And I've watched him sit at his computer for like fifteen hours a day. And I'm like, how do you sit there for so long? And now I get it. I would literally do this 24/7. Like I I'm like it consumes me. I actually he has to actually tell me to relax, watch TV, like do something else because I just I love this. I just it really just is like my calling. Yeah. I love it.

[00:36:35] It's the same with me. I'm a fanatic and it's in some cases it's good to have a fanatic on your team, you know, because I take consultations on evenings, weekends, holidays. I threw a teleclass one time on Thanksgiving. I didn't notice it was Thanksgiving made. Thirty eight hundred dollars a turkey go down easier, you know. But then and when people you talked about balance earlier in that you you I heard you, I heard you say you can't really be balanced. And I agree wholeheartedly. I give the example of a Olympic athlete. Do you think they're balanced, you know, couldn't possibly be balanced enough to reach those highest levels. So when if somebody says all Tom, you know, you work too hard, you're not balanced. I call it my winning pace, you know, just because you can't do it. And when people tell you you can't do something, that means they can't do it.

[00:37:29] I mean, that's exactly. Yeah, exactly. It's all about their perception. Yeah.

[00:37:34] So so. Yeah. So you don't need any extra motivation. That's you need the demotivated.

[00:37:39] So I'm supposed to know no demotivation. And it's so true because you know, it was somebody gave me a book years ago called How does she do it all.

[00:37:49] You know, because I was working and raising two kids involved in every like so many things with my kids, extracurricular charitable events. You know, I was on the board of my kids school, like, how do you do it all? And I, I don't think I think we can have it all. I don't think we can do it all, at least at the same time. Like like I said, something always has to give and like I think that I had so much mom guilt for so long if I was working too hard on something. But like there's always like whatever needs your attention the most in the moment, that's what you give it to. And everything else is going to be OK, like I can tell you that, like it will all work out. So.

[00:38:23] All right, so how do people get a hold of you? How did it get into your programs and webinars and all that stuff?

[00:38:28] Yes, there is a link in my Instagram.

[00:38:32] Tell them what it is and we'll also be in the show notes so they can just click on it.

[00:38:35] Perfect. It's LisaStuartofficial.

[00:38:41] And I also have the Facebook page and yeah, they can link in there that the same thing for the Facebook page. Lisa Stuart officially on my page. Yes, correct.

[00:39:00] Yeah. So I'm Tom unofficial. Well, nice to meet you, too. Yes.

[00:39:11] Oh, tell everybody how you got to be a public figure on Instagram. Everybody wants to get that. But did you pull some legal strings or threaten them with a lawsuit or what?

[00:39:21] No, I think it just just being out there and just posting all the time and just putting yourself out there, I think I don't think that does it.

[00:39:29] You got you you're hiding something from me.

[00:39:33] Yeah. You're a sneaky lawyer and you don't become a public figure with just accidentally.

[00:39:40] I don't know. I mean, my my husband might have helped me somebody.

[00:39:46] So I guess, you know, I have an anti fraud show in development in Hollywood called Scam Brigade.

[00:39:54] You can see the trailer. It's scambrigade.com. There's no way you got to be a public figure without some help.

[00:40:01] All right.

[00:40:02] Well, if I can get my message out there and help as many as possible, I don't mind you lawyers.

[00:40:14] Well, share. We'll share later. We'll get you there. Tom. Don't worry.

[00:40:19] All right. So it's hard to, like, wish you success because that means somebody got killed them motor vehicle act. Something for.

[00:40:28] Oh, that's a little awkward.

[00:40:30] What were the what were the things you said you were concentrating on in the legal field?

[00:40:35] Personal injury. Yeah, but what our focus. We do a lot of like like brain injuries at amusement rides. Oh, miserable dad. Product liability, sexual.

[00:40:47] If you're banned from Disney, probably I, I'm pretty sure we are closed. They're closed right now but somehow sneak back in. Oh. Speaking of close, did you have to close your law offices and work from home at all?

[00:41:01] You know, we've been working remotely since March. Yeah. Yeah. I've only gone in twice actually because somehow we've made it work. All of my court hearings have been on Zoom, all of my depositions, my mediation is actually so much better and easier. And I think this is going to be the way of the future. The judges are saying they don't really see it going back any time soon. Yeah, sure. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And it saves us the commute. It's nice.

[00:41:27] Well, yeah, it is probably a little different, you know, sway in a jury. Right, right. Yeah.

[00:41:32] I actually have a jury trial on Zoom so all the cases got continued and with the judges are saying now is well they always try to get you to settle the case. Roj is always the preferred mode to go to mediation. But if you can't, the judges were actually saying that they're asking the jurors can come in, but they want like the attorneys and all the witnesses to be on video.

[00:41:53] That'll be very interesting if that happens. Oh, my goodness.

[00:41:56] Or the judges are asking for just bench trials and no juries and just have the judges decide. So it's a different world that we're all navigating.

[00:42:04] But because I read a book by some body language expert, it was and she was like a top jury selection person and all the body language and stuff that goes on in the courtroom and the you know, you can't see somebody smirk if they're not on camera from Zoom. And, you know, you say something and they smirk. Well, that means something, right?

[00:42:26] It's fascinating. One of my favorite parts after a jury trial is to poll the jury and ask them there. It's really amazing to get their perspective because you can't talk to them throughout the trial, obviously. But I love asking them after what they thought.

[00:42:38] Yeah. Fascinating.

[00:42:40] Yeah, amazing. All right. Well, thanks so much for coming on. It's been quite a quite a good half hour here. And the very interesting person.

[00:42:49] I don't like most people from California, but you hate mail for sure. But thank you so much.

[00:43:01] Thank you so much for having me. Maybe I'll write you a parody about the show.

[00:43:04] Oh, yeah.

[00:43:05] Yeah, sounds good. All right. Well, I appreciate it so much. And everybody check out Lisa Stuart official on Instagram and Facebook. Check it out. And I know you got a website, but I went there and I think that's just to register for stuff or what.

[00:43:22] You know, it's under-construction I'm actually in the middle of working on it, but because it wasn't done. My husband, who knows how to write code, he had it so that it goes straight to my you can sign up there to get my emails, but then it goes straight to my Facebook while it's still a work in progress.

[00:43:39] But, yeah, I'm working on it. Yeah.

[00:43:42] All right. Thanks so much for coming on. Hey, everybody having me. Yeah. Check all this stuff out.

[00:43:48] The supermodel, mom, songwriter, lawyer, author, friend of mine, number nine, and we'll catch y'all on the next episode. See you later.

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